A New Normal

This is the daily pill box that I fill every Sunday evening.

This is the story of how it got that way.

Part XIV of “Years of Living Precariously”, my ongoing column in A&U Magazine, chronicling my experiences during the early years of the AIDS epidemic. This is the text version of the oral “storytelling” event that I posted here in June. As always, thank you for reading.


One Sunday, about fifteen years ago, I was visiting my then eighty-five-year-old father in Massachusetts. We were sitting at his kitchen table, and each of us was silently filling our 7-day pill organizers, top for A.M., bottom for P.M.

That’s when I realized that, at age forty-six, I had been sorting pills much longer than my eighty-five-year-old father. In fact, the process of sorting pills had become completely normalized.

Over the years, I have continually had to adjust to a “new normal.”

About bdwardbos

Writer (plays, essays, memoir, blogs), actor (theater, film, TV), teacher, HIV/AIDS educator, cat whisperer
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  1. Hammer, Cheryl says:

    Wonderful to read, tough to accept. Vivid images and a gift with language. Thank you. Separate email for good news re: our work together.

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